Research Opportunity

I received an email from Lisa Rosenzweig who is doing research for her dissertation on women's experiences with miscarriage. She asked me to put the link to her research survey on my blog with the hopes of having my readers help her learn more about our experiences with miscarriage. If you've suffered a miscarriage, please take the time to complete the survey. It doesn't take much time, and her results may help in how women who have suffered miscarriages are treated by medical professionals in the future!!

Below you'll find a summary of what she is doing. The link to her survey is https://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=VCaiTA9Wo6w60W8HA0QxSA_3d_3d

Thanks!!

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Everyone has a unique experience with miscarriage and many find help and support through websites like this one. Unfortunately, little is known about women's experiences of support and how this may affect responses to miscarriage, and so I invite you to participate in my dissertation research study examining women’s experiences following a miscarriage. Although there is no direct benefit to you, survey results may help healthcare providers better understand and meet the needs of women following miscarriage. This online survey takes approximately 15-20 minutes and is open to women who have miscarried a wanted pregnancy in the previous 6 months who are 18 years of age or older, living in the United States, and involved in a relationship with a significant other. Participants are eligible for a raffle for a $50 American Express gift certificate. For more information, please don't hesitate to contact me.

Lisa Rosenzweig
Teachers College
lsr2106@columbia.edu

Perfectly Described...

Someone on FF asked a question about whether the IF pain ever goes away once you adopt, and Tracie's response hit the nail on the head. It was just too good not to post.

For me, it's like a scar. When it was a fresh, open wound it hurt like nothing else. Every little bump made it bleed. Once I became a mommy it began to heal. It's all closed up now, but there's a scar. Scars are always there to remind us of where we've been and what has happened. Sometimes they can be a little bit tender and because they're there, you never look the same. But it's part of who you are.

I only wish I could have put it more perfectly! As I read her response I found myself nodding in agreement. There are times when I long to experience giving birth to our baby. It doesn't lessen how much love I feel for our girls, but the longing to have a biological child hasn't gone away. We are so in love with our girls, and I have come to terms with never having a child, but coming to terms with it doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt when I hear about an "oops" pregnancy. IF will always be a part of my life...I guess it just doesn't knock me to my knees anymore thanks to the adoption of our girls.