For me, it's like a scar. When it was a fresh, open wound it hurt like nothing else. Every little bump made it bleed. Once I became a mommy it began to heal. It's all closed up now, but there's a scar. Scars are always there to remind us of where we've been and what has happened. Sometimes they can be a little bit tender and because they're there, you never look the same. But it's part of who you are.
I only wish I could have put it more perfectly! As I read her response I found myself nodding in agreement. There are times when I long to experience giving birth to our baby. It doesn't lessen how much love I feel for our girls, but the longing to have a biological child hasn't gone away. We are so in love with our girls, and I have come to terms with never having a child, but coming to terms with it doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt when I hear about an "oops" pregnancy. IF will always be a part of my life...I guess it just doesn't knock me to my knees anymore thanks to the adoption of our girls.
