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Here's one of her latest show topics...

DO YOU KNOW A WOMAN OBSESSED WITH BECOMING PREGNANT?

Do you know a woman who is obsessed with becoming a mom? Have you seen and heard her struggle for years, felt her unvoiced jealously and seen her desperation first hand? Have you watched silently for too long as she gets her hopes up only to be disappointed and heartbroken when she can’t conceive? Has she tried extreme methods and spent a lot of money to get pregnant with no luck? Do you want to finally tell her she needs to stop the emotional and physical stress on her body and seriously consider adoption or a surrogate alternative? If you know a woman who is obsessed with becoming a mom and getting pregnant, then SUBMIT BELOW.

Please do not submit unless you are willing to appear on “The Tyra Banks Show".

So of course I had to go and put in my two cents...

I am 33, have PCOS, and I'm infertile. And the last thing I would want is someone calling me "obsessed" about having a biological child, something our bodies are naturally built to do. Instead of being chastized by my friends who are fertile, I would hope that they would be supportive and empathetic about my struggles.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a biological child, but telling them to "just adopt" or "relax" isn't helpful to someone who is infertile. Rather, it alienates them from the people that they should be able to go to for comfort. We already feel like we're less of a woman because we can't have children, all the while watching other women (or teens) pop them out left and right.

I hope that you will change the subject of this show to "How to Help Your Friend Who is Dealing With Inferitlity" because there are women suffering in silence for fear that their friends and family will react just as you are asking them to.

Please do your research on infertility. Go to the Resolve website, talk to fertility specialists (known as reproductive endocrinologists) about procedures that women facing infertility have to put themselves through, read books and visit message boards designed for infertile women, etc...

Please do not air the show as the description reads! You are all about helping women find their true self and encouraging them to not be ashamed of who they are. But by calling infertiles "obsessed" you are doing the exact opposite, and it isn't going to raise an infertile's self esteem one bit.

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A Little This and A Little That

Saw this on Anla's blog and wanted to share it with all my infertile friends. I don't know why, but I'm always so excited when I hear of an infertility story placed out there for the world to read. More poeple need to know that it doesn't come easy for everyone. I feel so much empathy for the author of this story and I commend her for stepping out with her story.

I've been feeling pretty weird lately. Not weird in a good way, but weird in an "I think I'm getting sick" kind of way. My head feels weird, my throat hurts, I was very nauseated and woosy yesterday so I stayed home from work because I was afraid to get in the shower feeling woosy. I had the flu shot so I know it's not that. I think the nausea and the dizziness was becasue I woke up in the middle of the night and took a pain pill on an empty stomach because my arthritis was bothering me to the point that I couldn't get comfortable. My arthritis is continuing to reek havok on me, so at this point until AF comes I can only take pain pills, Ale.ve or Ad.vil. I really am ready for AF to show. I called Dr. C on Monday to tell her I wasn't any better, so she called in the Meth.otre.xate and Fo.lic Ac.id. As much as I dread taking the Meth.otre.xate because that officially puts an end to our ttc journey, I'm ready to start feeling better, so I'm getting anxious about taking it. It's hard to sit back and know that I'm only a few pills away from feeling better, but I can't take them until I know for sure that I'm not pregnant. (Which BTW...I didn't even O with the Fem.ara), but in the off chance that a miracle happened and I did (though I know I didn't--just check my chart to see that beautiful annovulatory cycle), I have to wait. Come on AF!!!!

I have a consultation appointment for LA.SIK surgery on Tuesday with an appt for the procedure on Thursday. I'm so freaking excited!!! (I just hope I'm not getting sick so it doesn't have to be postponed.) I went to one doctor who said that I was only a candidate for PR.K because my corneas are too thin for LA.SIK. However, when I talked to one of the leading eye clinics here in BR, the lady said that I am very close to being a candidate (corneas that are no lower than 500 microns thick is the cut-off...I'm 465). She said that there is a new (more expensive, of course) procedure called Intra.lase that uses only lasers so it's safer for people with corneas thinner than 500 microns. But since I haven't seen the doctor yet she can't say that I am definitely a candidate for the Intra.ase or not. So I see Dr. Ha.ik (a distant relative of J's family) on Tuesday and he'll tell me if I can have the Intra.lase or if I have to have the PR.K. The negative side to the PR.K is that it's more painful and has a longer healing time. I'll be out of work for a week if I have to have the PR.K. With the Intra.lase I can go back to work the next week. I'm praying I can have the Intra.lase.

SHOOT ME NOW!!!!!!

Jamie Lynn Spears is pregnant...AT 16!!!!! And she's keeping the baby and raising it in my home state (Kentwood, LA to be exact) because she wants her baby to have a more normal life. I hate to tell her but wasn't she raised in Kentwood? Being raised in her family makes that baby sooooo not normal no matter where it's being raised. They're all "adnormal" to put it nicely.

I'm thinking they could have made a butt-load off of infertiles by donating their high-quality eggs or even by being surrogates if they didn't want their eggs discarded each month. But now they're just adding more dysfunction to their family! SICK!!!!

Girls, I hope you've learned your lesson...you were supposed to start ttc at 16!!! It's too late for us, but it's not too late for all those teenagers out there. We CAN put an end to infertility!!!!! Spread the word...It's just a matter of how early you start!!!!!

Relaxation

***DISCLAIMER*** This post is riddled with sarcasm. If that will offend you, please pass on today's post!!!

Relaxation is the key to Pregnancy. Yes, that's what I saw on Good Morning America this morning. Go ahead and read for yourself. The doctor that they interviewed, Dr. Sarah Berga, of Emory University School of Medicine, said that chronic stress causes the hypothalamus to send the wrong message to the ovaries, which causes them to stop ovulating. Now, while I'm sure their findings are probably legit, it still causes ANYONE going through the horrors of IF to cringe when they hear they just need to relax.

So do you think that infertility is a cause of chronic stress? In my case (and I'm sure in most of our cases) I would have to say ABSOLUTELY!!!! I live a pretty stress-less life right now. My job is pretty mundane, we don't worry about money so I'm basically only working to pay for infertility treatments, we love where we live, we have great friends and a wonderful family, etc... So for me, the fact that I don't have kids in a world where all of my friends have one (or more) is the only thing that stresses me out. So do you think it's safe for me to assume based on their findings that my infertility is my source of my infertility???

Their solution...
1. de-stress - find things to do that will get rid of the stress in your life such as reading, playing the piano, yoga, etc...
2. eat more - huh? I've been told I need to lose weight? So now they're telling me to eat more? Got it!
3. talk it out - it was proven that those who sought out talk therapy got pregnant as opposed to those who didn't seek out talk therapy.

So to destress I've decided to get rid of my infertility. Yes folks, you read that correctly. Since that is my only source of stress these days it seems to reason that I need to get rid of it. If any of you have any suggestions on how to do that, please let me know. Or, maybe the therapist that I will be going to can help me with that. I need to just let it go. I also plan to eat more. It doesn't matter that I'm in the process of seeing a dietician to help me lose weight, but I will start eating more.

I'm so glad this doctor helped me work through this! What a relief!!!!!! Now I'm sure I'll be pregnant within 4 months without medical intervention like the person this story was based on. She quit her job, she quit running in marathons, she gained weight, and BOOM she was pregnant naturally despite going through 3 failed IVF cycles before relaxing!!!

Woo Hoo Ladies...get ready to throw me a baby shower! Baby Haik is on the way!!!!!!

Madeleine McCann

Is anyone else just fuming about this story? I've always thought the parent's story was a bit odd, but now that they are being named as primary suspects I'm just beside myself.

So for those of you who don't know the story, here's a brief synopsis...

Kate and Gerry McCann, both doctors, have 3 children...4 year old Madeleine, and 2 year old twins, who's names I don't know. They took a vacation to Portugal back in April. They decided to have a little alone time so they put the three children to bed in their hotel room and went to dinner alone!! (Umm, hello...stupid!!!!!!) They say that they alternated checking on the children every 30 minutes to make sure they were okay. One of the times when the mother went to check on them she found that Madeleine was missing, but the twins were sound asleep. (Red flag here!!!)

So fast forward 25 days when the McCann's rented a car, and the police later found Madeleine's DNA in it. (Another red flag!!) The police have said that they believe that Madeleine is indeed dead.

Since then, the McCanns have toured Europe with photos of Madeleine and the child's stuffed animals and clothing, even meeting with Pope Benedict XVI at the Vatican. Celebrities including J.K. Rowling and David Beckham made public appeals that helped the family raise more than $2 million.

Both Kate and Gerry have been questioned before, but there are more indepth questions that the Portugal police want answered, and in order to ask those questions the have to be officially named as suspects. The girl's aunt said police suggested Madeleine McCann might have been killed accidentally and offered the mother a plea deal if she confessed.

My question is, aside from the obvious why did they leave the children unsupervised...why would an abducter only take Madeleine and leave the other two children sleeping in the hotel room? That just doesn't make sense.

I think the mom was upset about something and did the unthinkable to poor Madeleine, and now the father is trying to cover up the story and protect his wife. I don't know about you, but if my spouse had something to do with the disappearance or death of my child, even if it was accidental, I certainly wouldn't be helping him cover it up!! I just don't get people's rationale.

I hope and pray that the police are able to get to the bottom of this case and find poor Madeleine's body.

The last thing I'm going to say about this is...(and it's going to sound bitter, but I just can't help it)...I would NEVER leave my children unattended or without adult supervision...EVER. These highly educated idiots did, and I'm the one suffering with IF??? It just doesn't make sense!!!

In other news...BL got some GREAT news at her first u/s today!!! Be sure to go by and congratulate her!!!

Paris Hilton wants to be more responsible...

...so she says that being a mother is going to get her there???

HUH??? Now don't get me wrong. I'm not saying she NEVER needs to be a mother, but come on...the best way for her to be responsible is to have a child??? Ummm, no, the best way to be responsible is to DO responsible things. Don't complain about getting caught drinking and driving, and don't whine about the consequences that follow. Don't drink and drive idiot!!! Don't complain about the fact that you can't go anywhere without paparrazzi. You started it by living the party lifestyle and showing up at every premiere and party. She wasn't big until she started flaunting herself in public. DO responsible things, and people will view you as a responsible adult. Get a good job and support yourself rather than living off of daddy's fortunes and trying to get yourself out of trouble without accepting the consequences, help the less fortunate, do something with your life other than party! That's what responsible people do. They don't go around having kids to make them more responsible.

Anyone who says that they need a child to make them more responsible highly underestimates the job a mother does. But of course she won't be mothering that child. That child will have servants and nannies to raise it while mom continues to flaunt herself in public.

I'm not saying just PH deserves not to have children right now...I'd say that about ANYONE (Britney, Nicole, Jessica, etc) who lives life like she lives it...with no regard for anyone else but herself. You CANNOT be a selfish person and be a good mother! And anyone who knowingly chooses to drive a car under the influence of drugs or alcohol is the most selfish kind of human being there is. Can you be selfish, and be a mom? Sure, but not one that your children deserve. And in my opinion if you can't put yourself second and nurture your children then you don't deserve to have them. Now I'm not saying that moms have to ALWAYS put themselves last, but if you are going to hire someone to do the raising for you while you party and flaunt yourself in public then you don't deserve the right to be a mom. Plain and simple.

*getting off my soapbox now*

So what do you think???